Director Nancy Buirski’s documentary The Loving Story, which chronicles the lives of Mr. and Mrs. Richard and Mildred Loving, whose case helped strike down anti-miscegenation laws, will debut at the Silverdocs Festival in Washington, D.C., in June. The film premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival in New York City. The ACLU will be hosting a D.C. showing on Capitol Hill on June 13. Ms. Buirski and the Lovings’ attorney Phil Hirschkop will hold a panel discussion that evening after a screening at the School of Visual Arts in New York.

In the following article, Ms. Buirski explains why she decided to make this documentary, as well as addressing  the lasting effect that Loving v. Virginia, and the Lovings, have had on America.


Richard  and Mildred Loving.

They are both gone now.

Mr. Loving died in an auto accident June 29, 1975 when a drunk driver slammed into his vehicle. He was 41. Mildred, who was in the car with him at the time, sustained injuries (she lost her right eye), but, she survived. She carried on with her life, raising their three children:  Peggy, Sidney, and Donald (who died in 2000).

On May 2, 2008, Mrs. Loving died from pneumonia at the age of 68, in Milford, VA. She was always humble about the respect so many people gave her and Richard, and considered what she and Richard did as just simply an act of love for each other. But, what they did changed laws that affected marriage in many ways.

The U.S. Supreme Court, by a 9-0 vote, declared Virginia’s anti-miscegenation statute, the “Racial Integrity Act of 1924“, unconstitutional, thereby overturning Pace v. Alabama (1883) and ending all race-based legal restrictions on marriage in the United States.

Richard and Mildred probably never thought of the profound effect their marriage would have, when in 1967, the dismantling of anti-miscegenation laws were repealed all across America (with Alabama, the last holdout, rescinding its anti-miscegenation laws in 2000) due to the U.S. Supreme Court’s landmark decision of Loving v. Virginia. June 12 is now celebrated as “Loving Day” in honor of Richard and Mildred Loving.

In June 12, 2007, the 40TH Anniversary of Loving v. Virginia, Mrs. Loving delivered a rare public appearance addressing the rights of same-sex couples to marry and the legacy of Loving v. Virginia:

Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don’t think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the “wrong kind of person” for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people’s religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people’s civil rights.

I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard’s and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support the freedom to marry for all. That’s what Loving, and loving, are all about.

Until the day she died, Mrs. Loving simply considered herself just an ordinary woman, who never considered herself as extraordinary:  “‘It wasn’t my doing,’ she told the Associated Press in a rare interview. ‘It was God’s work.’”

Yes, it was God’s work.

Just the same, what you and Richard did was extraordinary.

We thank you for that.


The Love Story That Made Marriage a Fundamental Right

Married couple Mildred and Richard Loving embracing at a press conference the day after the Supreme Court ruled in their favor in ‘Loving v. Virginia,’ June 13, 1967. Photo: Francis Miller/Time & Life Pictures/Getty Images

by Asraa Mustufa

Wednesday, April 27 2011, 10:16 AM EST

The Tribeca Film Festival is under way in New York, and one featured documentary delves into the story behind the landmark civil rights case Loving vs. Virginia, which struck down Jim Crow laws meant to prevent people from openly building families across racial lines.

Mildred and Richard Loving were an interracial couple that married in Washington, D.C., in 1958. Shortly after re-entering their hometown in Virginia, the pair was arrested in their bedroom and banished from the state for 25 years. The Lovings would spend the next nine years in exile, surreptitiously visiting family and friends back home in Virginia—and fighting for the right to return legally. Their case wound its way to the Supreme Court and, in 1967, the Court condemned Virginia’s Racial Integrity Act as a measure “designed to maintain white supremacy” that violated due process and equal protection. The ruling deemed the anti-miscegenation laws in effect in 16 states at the time unconstitutional. However, it took South Carolina until 1998 and Alabama until the year 2000 to officially remove language prohibiting interracial marriage from their state constitutions.

lovings-about_042611.jpgThe landmark case has returned to popular consciousness in recent years as states have debated same-sex marriage rights. Marriage equality advocates have pointed to the Lovings’ fight as a foundational part of American history, establishing marriage as a basic civil right. But for decades it was left to the footnotes of civil rights history, overshadowed by blockbuster cases like Brown vs. Board of Education.

Director Nancy Buirski’s “The Loving Story” aims to deepen public understanding of not just the case but the Loving family itself. The filmmakers recreate their story through interviews with their friends, community members and the attorneys fighting their case. Buirski and her team revived unused footage of the Lovings from 45 years ago, including home movies, and dug up old photographs to bring the couple to life. As a result, the film is as much an engaging love story as it is a history of racist lawmaking.

“The Loving Story” is making the film festival rounds this year and will air on HBO in February 2012. I spoke with Buirski after the film’s Tribeca screening this week.

Why did you want to make this film?

I came across an obituary on Mildred Loving in 2008 and I realized when reading the story that she had an incredible life. She was an amazingly compelling character, partly because she was not your typical activist, who had set out to make change. You know, she was not a civil rights activist. She was a woman that was trying to return to her home in Virginia after being exiled for 25 years because she had married a white man. And he, too, was not someone who was your typical change the world kind of guy. He really loved his wife and felt the exile that the state had forced them into was simply wrong. And so what they wanted to do was right a wrong, but they weren’t trying to change history, and I felt that that was an unusual way to approach a civil rights event and the change that resulted from their actions.

What do you think is the relevance of the Lovings’ story today, in 2011?

There’s a tremendous amount of relevance. This is not just a civil rights story, it’s a human rights story. And we are talking about the freedom to choose who you love and who you can marry and clearly there are relevant concerns around those issues today in gay marriage rights.

I think other relevance comes from the identification that some mixed-race couples and mixed-race children have in society. Even though many of us take that for granted, it’s not necessarily as easy as it may seem to be part of a mixed-race relationship. I think the thing that connects the two situations, in 1967 and 2011, is the thing that motivates a lot of people to try to stop people from marrying—the intolerance and the prejudice that bubbles up in 2011, not only about gay marriage but even about immigrant reform. I think it has to do with fear. I believe that fear was a motivating factor when the Lovings were arrested and I believe fear is also a motivating factor in the intolerance that we see in society today.

nancybuirski-filtered_042611.jpgCan you tell us more about Peggy Loving, the couple’s only surviving daughter? How does she feel about the case and the film?

You know, she’s very proud of her parents. She knows exactly what they achieved. She says whenever she watches a mixed-race couple walk down the street, arm in arm, she knows that that might not be the case if it weren’t for her parents, and she gets kind of emotional when she thinks about that. She likes to think of herself as a kind of rainbow, mixed, she feels it’s important that people recognize her mixed-race heritage and she’s very proud of it. And I think she loves the film.

How about the Lovings’ lawyers? They’re both still alive. Did they share any views, all these years later?

Philip Hirschkop [one of the Lovings’ attorneys] said recently that the fear and the prejudice that pervades our society today is a reminder of what the Lovings went through, and even though they prevailed, there’s nothing that could give them back their nine years of exile and separation from their family. And so we may take it for granted, but we really should be remembering how people like the Lovings struggled to get us where we are today.

So you were inspired after reading Loving’s obituary. Tell us about the long road from there to Tribeca.

Oh, you know, it’s three years later and it is a long process, but it’s an exciting one. You really just have to believe in the story and believe in the way you want to tell the story. And I think the most important thing was recognizing the value of the footage that we had and the photographs, and because we had such intimate material, allowing the Lovings to tell their own story. So we’ve made a historical film in a somewhat unusual style because there is no narrator, there’s no voice of God explaining to us what’s happening. It’s basically following the Lovings and their daughter and other people who knew them, allowing them to tell the story.

mildred-daughter_042611.jpgIs there anything else you wanted to say about the film?

[The film’s editor] Elisabeth Haviland James and and I both felt a real obligation to bring this story to a really wide audience and the fact that the depth of the story, the real story about this couple and their love have been overlooked for so many years. We really felt a commitment to bring this to a wider audience and we’re very grateful that we’re getting the response that we’re getting.

Do you feel like there’s any reason that it was overlooked? Because it was a landmark civil rights case and yet…

I think there were a number of other landmark cases and changes that were taking place just prior to this, and they tended to overtake this one because, you know, you had voting rights, you had Brown vs. Board of Education, you had people struggling for public accommodation, you know, the freedom to sit where they want to sit on the bus. Those felt a little more urgent than this did, so I think that’s one reason.

I think another reason is that the Lovings themselves were so humble and shy they didn’t particularly want publicity. And they were also in danger, because they were going back and forth to Virginia where they were supposedly prohibited from doing that, so they really needed to protect themselves and their family. And then finally, the fact that this was a case that dealt with the bedroom, that tended not to get the biggest publicity. Voting rights was an easier thing for people to deal with.

The Loving Story” screened at the Tribeca Film Festival this week and will play at the Silverdocs Festival in Washington, D.C., in June. The ACLU will be hosting a D.C. showing on Capitol Hill on June 13. Buirski and the Lovings’ attorney Phil Hirschkop will hold a panel discussion this evening after a screening at the School of Visual Arts in New York.

*This article has been altered since publication.


Here is a video of Richard and Mildred. They discuss their marriage, their arrests, and their being told to leave the state of Virginia for 25 years. The video also divulges Mrs. Loving’s decision to write to then U.S. Attorney General Robert Kennedy, the case taken on by lawyers, and the case brought before the United States Supreme Court, where the infamous anti-miscegenation laws were struck down in June 1967.

The following  “Mildred and Richard Loving Documentary” features more information on the Lovings, as well as including the founder of “Loving Day”, Ken Tanabe.



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  1. Margaret Spears

    I am so glad I learned about the Loving’s story. It makes me so happy to see the together and kinow they remained strong through it all. Also, for Mr. Loving to take ssuch a nstand knowing he would lose family and friends tells me he was a great man. Their children should be sooo proud of their parents.


  3. karin

    Beautiful “Loving” story. There is still so much hate in this world with interracial partners,gay and lesbian unions. God is not about hate

    • Kirk Aldemeyer

      That’s right! God is not about hate people. He is not about homosexuality either. But we are talking about hate here, so “God is not about hate” ;^).

  4. jody pettiford

    just watched this show with my husband, great love story for Valentine’s Day..Thank You to the Loving family for all they endured and the laws they changed so ,I could legally marry the man of my dreams and have his beautiful children.EQUAL RIGHTS FOR ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  5. S, Loving

    How did their son die and where are the other two children. Being hit by
    a drunk driver sounds pretty suspicious doesn’t it!

    • Sha

      My great great grandfather was white and my great great grandmother was black and they had the same issue accept it was before the Loving historical ruling so they had to sneak and hide there relationship and he too died in a car accident by a drunk driver…. very suspicious!!!!

      • Camila Costa

        It is indeed very suspicious, so both Richard and your grandfather were probably murdered by some white folks who got too mad at them for marrying outside of their race. I do realize this is specualtion, but hate crimes would happen quite often back in the day, especially in Southern America! Creepy!

    • Staci

      How did her son’s die

  6. Betty Bara

    What a great story what to learn more anout the Loving and the Childred
    And how their son died

  7. toni

    poor mrs loving she was so desperate to make her marriage legal that she denied her black heritage …poor thing.

  8. Laura Hornstra

    I watched the documentary twice. I loved it, I loved the story. What an amazing family. God Bless them. How did their 2 sons die?

  9. Muriel Tillinghast

    I have been a “watcher” of the Lovings since I first learned of them in a Jet Magazine article in the late 1950’s. They were against the odds with no more than their love and respect for each other as a shield in a very hostile world. They make me proud and they make me hopeful for all of us, for the honorable choices we can make.

  10. ANITA

    I just watch Mr and Mrs Loving the movie was so moving,at that time I was just born, But it let me know more about history and our hostile world.I thank God everyday that the world will and has gotten better in this day and time.JUST REMEMBER TODAY WE CAN LOVE WE CAN MARRY WHO EVER WE WANT NO MATTER WHAT COLOR. THANK YOU MR AND MRS LOVING!!!!!!!

  11. Just watched the HBO documentary and wish I could hug BOTH of them. Both sons died in their early 40s. Sidney’s obituary:

    • Susan

      The father and one of the sons passed away in their early 40s. The other son passed away in his 50s. Still sad. Such a beautiful family and to loose the males who are the protectors is just heartbreaking.

  12. Colleen

    I can remember their story when I was a child at the time and I still can recall how I felt amazed by it and scared, and scared for them. I can remember that back then I saw them as both remarkably attractive and their children seemed like kids I would play with. On the one hand it seems like most of us “white” people were taught to be very afraid, and on a very deep level. I was the only white girl in my high school who had black friends and had them over to my house. There were two other girls who put up with it out of a “Christian” sort of thing, but were very uncomfortable and a couple of guys would be friends with black fellows and vice versa in the sixties. Finally around 1970 an interracial couple emerged from our group. I recall the story of the Lovings from my early memory and recall thinking that this was a different sort of place they were from than my neighborhood on the edge of Dearborn and Detroit. And seeing the documentary now, it really was a different place out in the farmland, separate and those around them and their parents were different.

    Days later after seeing the documentary I am haunted by them over and over again. I wish I had a man who could love me as much as Richard loved her. Could I see it if it were there? Their love is as plain as the rain falling but with the wrong vision you can’t see it. And she was just so lovely and articulate. They just blow me away. And their name, how perfect is that?

  13. Neil

    As a law student, I remember Loving v. Virginia as one of many “duh” rulings we studied from the 1950s and 1960s, of constitutional principles that we all take for granted today. This movie beautifully portrayed the actual pain, sacrifice, tears and anguish that the Lovings had to suffer before that “duh” moment could ever be achieved.

  14. Dan

    This country has a gross history of racism and oppression dating back to the days of slavery. They looked like a nice couple only to have racists attempt to ruin their lives. Their strength and determination made this country a better place to live.


  16. Jody

    Through this country’s history, white men have been a source of much cruelty towards black women…..but even throughout history there have been white men who stood firm in their love of a black woman….in the past…and now.

    yes, many white men today care nothing for the lives and feelings of black women, but there are a few who do, and I commend them on being men where it really counts—–loving a woman unconditionally, and not giving a damn about whomever does not like it.

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