“You’re pretty, for a Black girl.”
Sometimes said to someone a Black person knows, often said to the Black girl (or woman) herself, this compliment brings with it so much racialized sexist baggage where Black women’s beauty is concerned.
Why would anyone even state such a comment?: What must be their image and idea of what a Black woman should look like?
Is it the subconscious parameter they are working with when they think of Black women that out of all the Black women in America, you stand out as different and better and more beautiful than what they think a Black girl or woman should look like, while saying this to you? Or that Black women, among all women, can never be pretty—that pretty is an aberration for them? That pretty for a Black woman is some fluke of nature? That Black women as a whole cannot possibly be attractive?
My question to the Black ladies: