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WHO’S PAYING FOR PROSTITUTES?
WHO’S PAYING FOR PROSTITUTES?
by Leila Noelliste
According to a new report, college- educated men with wives and girlfriends are the johns who frequent West and South Side prostitutes. Researchers at the Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation interviewed 113 men who buy sex and reported that 79 percent had attended or completed college, 62 percent made more than $40,000 a year, and 62 percent had a wife or girlfriend.
Roughly 40 percent of the interviewees were Black, 36 percent were white, 14 percent were Latino, and the remaining were Asian or multicultural. The average age was 39. Most of the men, 83 percent, said that buying sex was an addiction, and about half said that they did it to obtain sex acts their partners would not perform.
Anal sex and oral sex were the most commonly cited. “I want to pay someone to do something a normal person wouldn’t do. To piss on someone or pay someone to do something degrading who is not my girlfriend,” one participant said. The average age for the first purchase of sex was 21 years old, with some men starting as young as 10. Only 22 percent reported feeling guilty or shameful when they purchased sex, and 43 percent said that a prostitute should do whatever a man asks, if he pays her.
“She gave up her rights when she accepted my money,” one participant said. Although they felt relatively guiltless about participating in prostitution, many men acknowledged that it was detrimental. Eighty percent said that prostitution had a negative impact on communities, and 42 percent said that it psychologically and physically damaged the women involved.
Ninetyfour percent said that they would not want their daughters to become prostitutes. “Getting beat up, robbed. Vaginal, stomach, back problems. Being stretched. It wears them out,” one participant said. “From prostitution comes drug involvement, pimps, and violent crime like battery and assault,” said another. The West Side, followed by the South Side, were the most popular locations to buy sex.
Thirty-four percent said they used the Internet to find women, 57 percent walked the streets, and 84 percent used indoor venues like bars, strip clubs and private parties. Close to 90 percent of interviewees said that some form of public exposure, like jail time, would deter them from buying sex. Sixty percent said that men under 18 should not follow in their footsteps. “Learn to trust and love a woman first.
“If you start out thinking of a woman as a sexual tool, you always will think of her as a sexual tool,” one participant said.
(Article courtesy of the Chicago Defender: http://www.chicagodefender.com )
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“I want to pay someone to do something a normal person wouldn’t do. To piss on someone or pay someone to do something degrading who is not my girlfriend,” one participant said.
Yeah, prostitutes are not normal people. They are what. . .sub-human? Therefore, pissing on them, and degrading them is okay because they are the lowest of the low, right, Mr. Prostitutor? They obviously are not human in your eyes, so why not go the Full Monty on them? Why not piss, shit, vomit and wipe your ass on them, because everyone knows that those horrible prostitutes force all men to have sex with them.
The nerve of those uppity prostitutes.
“She gave up her rights when she accepted my money,” one participant said.”
Oh, and she gave up her right to be more than just a sperm-receptacle for some prostitutor’s sick and perverted neuroses, eh? The women whom prostitutors engage in sexual activities with were (and still are) HUMAN BEINGS, before they became prostitutes. But, I guess it is oh so convenient for prostitutors to forget that? To cut right out of their hearts the fact that these women they seek to lie up with are human beings with feelings, minds and hearts. So easy to forget and throw out of their minds that the woman they are debasing is someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, someone’s cousin, someone’s niece.
Yeah, real easy to throw those thoughts out of their minds, eh?
“Ninetyfour percent said that they would not want their daughters to become prostitutes. “Getting beat up, robbed. Vaginal, stomach, back problems. Being stretched. It wears them out,” one participant said. “From prostitution comes drug involvement, pimps, and violent crime like battery and assault,” said another.”
Yeah, but, prostitutors just keep right on going back to these women, women who face violent crimes, like battery and assault, and physical debilitation, mayhem, rape, and murder, mainly from prostitutors.
“Sixty percent said that men under 18 should not follow in their footsteps. “Learn to trust and love a woman first.”
Right.
Make sure those young men who look up to you do not follow in your footsteps.
Make sure you are the most hypocrite of hypocrites by talking out the side of your neck by admonishing young men not to do as you do, while you continue to use prostitutes, like the sex gluttons that you are.
“Learn to trust and love a woman first.”
What a joke!
After you have defiled and denigrated a woman whom you want to do any sex act you can conjure up, now you want to earn a woman’s trust and love? After you have used women as sexual toilet receptacles, now you want to start treating all women as humans when you could not get up the balls to treat prostitutes as human beings? Not when you can have a two-faced, double-standard attitude towards prostitutes, in comparison to the women of your own family, towards the women of your own community?
I noticed this article did not state the races of the prostitutes. Not being from the Chicago area, I did a little research on the two neighborhoods mentioned in this article and here is what I found:
-Near South Side: http://www.cagis.uic.edu/commarea/carepts/carept_33.txt
-Near West Side: http://www.cagis.uic.edu/commarea/carepts/carept_28.txt
are predominantly black neighborhoods.
Near South Side: approximately 6,424, black
Near West Side: approximately 31,052 black; approximately 10,352, white
Then again, vice and other illegal activities (gambling, alcohol, illegal guns, prostitution, drugs) have always been steered towards poor and black neighborhoods.
These areas are called interzones.
The racialization of sex created a demilitarized urban landscape zone of racialized sex. Interzones were the black/white districts. . . .located in districts that had black and white, heterosexual and homosexual, prostitute and customer. (Just like New Orleans’s Storyville). Interzones were in essence, urban racial landscapes that were an area where outsiders could go to release their pent-up psychological depravities and where their sub-conscious throughts were given free rein.
Interzones were buffers to keep all the vices that were too contaminating for the precious non-white neighborhoods, from spilling over into and corrupting the non-black parts of society. Therefore, the creation of interzones made sure that sexual vices remained contained, in majority black neighborhoods. As long as prostitution remains contained in black neighborhoods, its presence is considered normal. But, let prostitution dip its little toe into white neighborhoods, then out comes the Vice Squad in full force, to clean up the white neighborhood. Never mind that there have been police busts of white housewives operating prostitution rings out of their all-white suburban homes. Their acts of vice would be considered an aberration, as outside the norm. Prostitution in black neighborhoods is considered normal for those people. Prostitution is allowed to remain and fester and run rampant in black neighborhoods. Even when the denizens of black neighborhoods seek more law enforcement to drive out pimps and prostitutes, much fanfare is made of police muscle to crack down on prostitutes and prostitutors who frequent them, but this only lasts for a little while, and then it is back to business as usual for the prostitutes, and the prostitutors who frequent them.
Many times the police harrass the denizens of the neighborhood in these so-called crackdowns. Many black women who live in neighborhoods that have prostitutes in them, suffer from police abuse and torment when these black women leave their homes to go to work, go to school, go to the grocery store, and go to church. Many black women sitting at bus-stops have been illegally detained by police on only the mere suspicion that that woman was a prostitute. Many black women have been propositioned by men from all races while going about their daily lives because of the sterotyping of ALL black women as prostitutes.
Because of the racist/sexist belief that all black communities are only good for being a hazardous waste site for America’s sick sexual fantasies, prostitution is allowed to remain and is publically sanctioned and condoned———-as long as it stays in black neighborhoods.
Nothing new there.
America has always treated black neighborhoods as her dumpimg grounds for all of America’s filthy, neurotic, and racist psychosis. Just as black people have been used as sexual latrines by America, so too have prostitutes been used by many men, the same way.
As the author Carol Chehade so aptly stated, America has always used black neighborhoods, black towns, black bodies, as the country’s waste receptacles for America’s most vulgar and basest depravities:
“Sex has always been a very powerful weapon in oppressing Blacks. Our long record of trying to control the bodies of Black people is in itself perversely sexual. Our country has owned and exploited physical parts of the Black body to benefit White people’s wishes, whims, and desires. The black body has been used as a repository for our sickness. We’ve used the black body laboriously, exploitatively and sexually. We’ve taken pleasure in watching Black pain. The very act of bondage is a form of sadistic control over another person, let alone an entire race.
“We did things to the Black body that we would never do to ourselves. We captured, bound, whipped, chained, stripped, branded, displayed, sold, degraded, objectified, crudely fondled, and enslaved.”
From Big Little Whites Lies: Our Attempt To White-Out America”, by Carol Chehade, Nehmarche Publishers, Inc., 2001.
And the lack of decent-paying, rewarding jobs, educational school systems, and racist segregation of blacks from whites (urban=black, rural/suburban=white; yes, the city of “broad shoulders” is notorious for its viciously racist segregation that rivals the American South’s Jane Crow), has allowed this hemmed-up, penned-in, environment to continue.
Here are 10 Things We Can Do To Stop Commercial Sexual Exploitation:
Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation
http://www.caase.org/
1. Work to help women gain supportive housing and jobs that pay a living wage
2. Advocate for shelters and clinics equipped and staffed to offer medical and psychological treatment for women
3. Educate young girls and boys on the harms of prostitution and how to avoid becoming a victim of sexual exploitation
4. Challenge society’s sexist views of women. Fight against pornography and other forms of media that continue to objectify women
5. Change language- stop using words such as “pimp”, “ho” and “whore” and challenge your friends when they use similar language
6. Support legislation aimed at stopping sexual exploitation and expanding options for prostituted individuals
7. Make sure the needs of sexually exploited individuals are being addressed in the domestic violence community, the sexual assault community, among homeless rights advocates and among individuals working to fight substance addiction
8. Pressure local CAPS and police enforcement to go after those purchasing sex instead of those selling it
9. Hold media and financial institutions accountable in regards to the ads they run that promote prostitution
10. Raise public awareness! Host book clubs, film screenings and art projects to raise awareness about the issue. Also join in local awareness raising initiatives such as the upcoming Rescue and Restore campaign.
Read CAASE’s research study on Chicago men who purchase sex by clicking here:
Just as America has defiled the bodies of black Americans, so too do these prostitutors defile and seek the degradation of women who work as prostitutes. Just as America has sought to control the bodies of black people, so too do prostitutors seek to control and obliterate the bodies of prostitutes. Just as America has used black people’s bodies for their perverse whims, wishes and hellish sexual desires—–so too have men used prostitutes for their hellish sexual desires.
Just as America has used black people’s bodies as racist, sexist repositories, so too do prostitutors use the bodies of prostitutes as repositories for their most horrendous sex acts.
A man cannot seek the services of a prostitute to bind, gag, beat, and torment them, without that behaviour finding its way into his relationships with all other women. A man cannot pay a woman to do all manner of wretched forms of sex acts, then expect that detrimental mode of behaviour not to carry over as a way of thinking into a future relationship. A man cannot truss up, piss on, shit on, masturbate on and debauch a woman just because she is a prostitute, and expect to come away from degrading her humanity without destroying and degrading his own humanity.
By seeking the destruction of her humanity, he has sealed the coffin on his own humanity.
By tearing her down, and tearing her apart, he has done the same to himself.
And all women who encounter him or enter into his life intimately, will suffer the consequences of his previous mistreatment of prostitutes.
Men who use the services of prostitutes seek to destroy the morality of all women. The desire to seek out prostitutes to have a woman do sex acts for you that border on the vile and inhumane, is a perverse desire to annihilate the humanity in any and all women.
But, because prostitutes are the least adored, the least loved, the least respected, the least protected in this country, they are fair game for the most monstrous of male hatred and misogyny.
“If you start out thinking of a woman as a sexual tool, you always will think of her as a sexual tool,” one participant said.”
Yeah.
It’s real easy for these prostitutors to use these women for their immoral anti-woman sex. As long as it it is someone else’s daughter, someone else’s sister, someone else’s female relative.
Until it hits close to home.
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